How To Measure Your Personal Power

by on 16 March 2016 in Members Blog


When I first read Jack Canfield’s book – The Success Principles – the very first principle was that we need to take 100% responsibility for where we are in our lives right now.  This includes your level of achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings – everything!

This exercise really got me clear on where I had and had not taken 100% responsibility – when I looked at the results, it became very clear – and it wasn’t easy.  In fact most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents our bosses, our friends, the media, the government, the economy, the weather, our clients, our spouse – in fact anything we can pin the blame on – not looking at where the real problem is – ourselves. 

Dr Robert Resnick has a very simple formula that makes the idea of 100% responsibility even clearer.  You can simply change your responses (R) to the event (E) the way things are – until you get the outcomes (O) that you want.

E + R = O

(Event + Response = Outcome)

Personal Power is assuming full responsibility for your life –taking responsibility for your thinking, your communication and changing the pictures in your head (your images of how you see yourself in the world) – and you can change your behavior – the things you do. That is all you have control over anyway.

James Scouller in his book “Three Levels of Leadership” talks about when you take responsibility for your personal power,  you increase your freedom and your choice over how to act.

Personal Power accepts that although we can’t always control everything that happens to us, we can decide our responses.

Personal Power is the power we have over ourselves  – it is not the power that we wish to have over others. It doesn’t spring from the need to have status that having power over others can bring.

The importance of personal power is this – if you can’t take command over yourself, the inner you, the person with you will sense that. – This is where you need to not only talk the talk but also need walk the talk.

Ask yourself three simple questions to measure your level of Personal Power:

Can I always choose my behavior to other peoples behavior or events?

How much control over my life do I really have?

Do I feel that I am the architect of my life, or am I allowing someone else to create it for me?

Ondina will be running a full day  “The Power of Personal Presence” – Intensive on the 25th May in North Sydney. Find out more here